I stumbled upon an interesting article on Thought Catalogue this evening called 25 things to do before you’re 25 . I had to read it for 2 reasons. 1) I just turned 25 so this is like, a checklist to see how awesome I’m doing at life. 2) The curiosity that’s been perpetuated over the quarter life crisis by living it is strong with this one. I, being the overly transparent hipster I am have decided to copy and paste TC’s check list- I haven’t even read it yet.
25 Things to do Before You’re 25
(here goes)[X] 1. Make peace with your parents. Whether you finally recognize that they actually have your best interests in mind or you forgive them for being flawed human beings, you can’t happily enter adulthood with that familial brand of resentment.
I love you Dad. Thanks for everything but most of all thanks for always being there for me when I needed it the most- even if I didn’t realize it then…I do now and I’m proud to be your daughter. 🙂[X] 2. Kiss someone you think is out of your league; kiss models and med students and entrepreneurs with part-time lives in Dubai and don’t worry about if they’re going to call you afterward. [x] 3. Minimize your passivity.
This one gets a little x because I’m halfway there![X] 4. Work a service job to gain some understanding of how tipping works, how to keep your cool around assholes, how a few kind words can change someone’s day. [X] 5. Recognize freedom as a 5:30 a.m. trip to the diner with a bunch of strangers you’ve just met. [ ] 6. Try not to beat yourself up over having obtained a ‘useless’ Bachelor’s Degree. Debt is hell, and things didn’t pan out quite like you expected, but you did get to go to college, and having a degree isn’t the worst thing in the world to have. We will figure this mess out, I think, probably; the point is you’re not worth less just because there hasn’t been an immediate pay off for going to school. Be patient, work with what you have, and remember that a lot of us are in this together.
Hearing this over and over again from my family, love, and strangers on the internet really does help. Please keep writing articles reassuring people like me that this is a GOOD problem to have.[X] 7. If you’re employed in any capacity, open a savings account. You never know when you might be unemployed or in desperate need of getting away for a few days. Even $10 a week is $520 more a year than you would’ve had otherwise. [X] 8. Make a habit of going outside, enjoying the light, relearning your friends, forgetting the internet. [X] 9. Go on a 4-day, brunch-fueled bender.
Pennycluse, how I miss thee.[X] 10. Start a relationship with your crush by telling them that you want them. Directly. Like, look them in the face and say it to them. Say, I want you. I want to be with you.
Does it count if it was a non-verbal smooch?[ ] 11. Learn to say ‘no’ — to yourself. Don’t keep wearing high heels if you hate them; don’t keep smoking if you’re disgusted by the way you smell the morning after; stop wasting entire days on your couch if you’re going to complain about missing the sun. [ ] 12. Take time to revisit the places that made you who you are: the apartment you grew up in, your middle school, your hometown. These places may or may not be here forever; you definitely won’t be. [X] 13. Find a hobby that makes being alone feel lovely and empowering and like something to look forward to. [X] 14. Think you know yourself until you meet someone better than you. [ ]15. Forget who you are, what your priorities are, and how a person should be.
In progress. This one is much, much more difficult than I thought it was going to be.[X] 16. Identify your fears and instead of letting them dictate your every move, find and talk to people who have overcome them. Don’t settle for experiencing .000002% of what the world has to offer because you’re afraid of getting on a plane. [ ] 17. Make a habit of cleaning up and letting go. Just because it fit at one point doesn’t mean you need to keep it forever — whether ‘it’ is your favorite pair of pants or your ex. [ ] 18. Stop hating yourself. [X] 19. Go out and watch that movie, read that book, listen to that band you already lied about watching, reading, listening to. [X] 20. Take advantage of health insurance while you have it. [X] 21. Make a habit of telling people how you feel, whether it means writing a gushing fan-girl email to someone whose work you love or telling your boss why you deserve a raise. [X] 22. Date someone who says, “I love you” first.
Oh and how I love you back. (see number 21)[X] 23. Leave the country under the premise of “finding yourself.” This will be unsuccessful. Places do not change people. Instead, do a lot of solo drinking, read a lot of books, have sex in dirty hostels, and come home when you start to miss it. [X] 24. Suck it up and buy a Macbook Pro. [X] 25. Quit that job that’s making you miserable, end the relationship that makes you act like a lunatic, lose the friend whose sole purpose in life is making you feel like you’re perpetually on the verge of vomiting. You’re young, you’re resilient, there are other jobs and relationships and friends if you’re patient and open.
All in all, I’m pretty proud of myself. 18.5 out of 25…that’s like, a 70% or something along those lines.
Math is not one of my stronger skills. So I’m rocking life at 70% capacity- I have 1 year to pump it to 85%. I think I’ll be good with 85%.